We all have heard about the “Mid-life crisis” that adults go through. In this post, I’m going to be talking about something that I feel deserves just as much attention: The Quarter Life Crisis.
The Quarter Life Crisis is not talked about or mentioned nearly as much, with the exception of a few articles and a Ted Talk. Many people don’t even know something like that exists or don’t believe in it. I am sad to say…
I am currently going through a quarter life crisis.
If you look up the Quarter Life Crisis on Wikipedia, you’ll read that it usually starts in your early 20’s and can last up until about the age of 30.
2 of the Biggest Factors:
- Not knowing what you’re doing with your life. Not everyone relates to this, but this definitely applies to me. I changed my major last minute and also made another last minute switch (adding a minor) in my Junior year of college, pushing me back at least one semester or even an extra year plus summer classes. If you’re a college student, especially in the US, more semesters=more $$$! And of course, it wouldn’t be college if you questioned if you’re in the correct major at least once a week. I’ll go through phases where I’m pretty confident in what direction I want to go in life, happy with my major, certain in what type of job I want to have, where I want to live, etc..but then I’ll have moments of doubt and uncertainty. These moments can be either a passing thought or me pacing back and forth in my dorm room asking myself “WHAT AM I DOING WITH MY LIFE? and HOW AM I GOING TO FARE IN THE REAL WORLD?!”
- Going through a second puberty. YES THIS EXISTS. I don’t know if this applies to men as much as women, but all I know is people should have warned us about this in high school! I was that girl in high school that was naturally very skinny, always ate junk food, and had a quick metabolism. And by skinny, I mean literally 100 pounds skinny. We are all aware about the freshman 15 (which I definitely experienced) that occurs in college, but we often don’t remember or know that our body can continue to change until our early 20’s. No matter how healthy I ate and how much I exercised, my body continued filling out, and I kept gaining and losing weight. I woke up one morning, literally walked over to the mirror, realized I had hips and freaked out because I had never been curvy at all up until then. I now cannot eat whatever I want without gaining weight, which is such a struggle for someone who has a giant sweet tooth like I do. I am now suddenly lactose intolerant and everything cracks. Basically, I feel old and this sucks.
But don’t worry! My advice to anyone who thinks they’re going through a quarter life crisis:
- It’s PERFECTLY OKAY if you don’t know what you really want to do with your life. From a young age, we’re always asked what we want to be when we grow up. This puts this in our minds as early as 5 years old. I was always one of those people that never really knew what I was specifically good at and didn’t really have a certain career that I wanted. Many people don’t realize their true passion until later in life. Don’t forget, you can always go back to get a different degree if you are truly unhappy with the path that you are on.
- Don’t compare yourself to others. I know you always hear this. Not hearing it isn’t the problem.Not listening to it is. You are beautiful. As long as you are eating healthy, exercising, and treating your body right, you are fine.
Years from now, you’ll be laughing about your quarter life crisis.